Peninsula Interfaith Counseling Center for Women

Learn to Forgive

Many people have done things that may have been inappropriate at some point that eventually caused harm or hurt in some way or another.   

However, I do not dwell on past hurts or those who have caused harm. Simply because I have, in fact, forgiven everyone who has. 

People and situations arise in our lives to help us grow and become the people that God intended us to be.  Holding on to past hurts serves no purpose in life.  I feel that incumbent upon us to learn whatever lesson those injuries can teach.  Allowing anyone to hurt you, to the point of unforgiveness is pointless. What was done in the past is no longer happening. Therefore, allowing it to haunt you today is counterproductive. 

There are people that will intentionally try to cause great harm, however, they are unsuccessful in their attempts. Our perception at the time a particular circumstance is occurring plays a major part. People are who they are.  It will not change them by holding on to bitterness or hatred towards them.  Know without a doubt, that Allah is our provider, protector, guide, healer, strength, and ever-present confidant. He knows every plan and, He will not allow evil to prevail. 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺 

Hanifah Abdul Haqq

Peninsula Interfaith Counseling Center for Women

“This too shall pass.” 

This is a poignant statement. It gives rise to the realities of life. Things come and things go. What things, one might ask. Love, sadness, joy, friends, family, wealth, poverty, sickness, health, victory, and defeat are all transient. The only constant in life is change; nothing stays the same. Nothing last forever. Our time here will come to an end. What we do with the gifts we have been granted varies from person to person. When I speak of gifts I am not just talking about all the great and grandiose things that we can or have acquired. I speak also about times of sorrow, pain, and loss. These too are gifts. We may not understand when we are in a situation that puts us to the test. Later, as we reflect on what events have transpired, if we are open to the universe’s teachings, we will get clarity on the “why” of the event. That part. The part that lets us know in a very striking way, we are human and only God is in control. That part, that teaches us the lessons of life we need to take heed of in all our affairs. How do we not see God at work in every situation? No matter what it is, or how it feels, it is a gift from God giving us the strength to move.  He created us to be fluent, not stagnant or stuck.  I know it is hard to recognize the joy of knowing “this too shall pass,” because it will. He is my guide, my protector, my strength, and my comforter. Everything I need comes from His infinite source where there is no lack, only abundance. If He brought me to it, He will bring me through it. So enjoy the moment, this too shall pass. 

You woke up this morning in pain or not. You took a deep breath, opened your eyes, and saw the sunshine even on a cloudy day. Rich or poor, it does not matter what your circumstance is; we are all blessed with the same opportunity each day we rise. Be grateful, this too shall pass. 

Grand rising, Hanifah Abdul Haqq